the truth about men

Wanted to post something that i read a couple of weeks ago on the Today paper...
So here it is... In case you are wondering, it's written by a woman :)

THE (SAD) TRUTH ABOUT MEN

WE come across men who say things like: "A man can still have extramarital
affairs even though he is happily married" or "It is not natural for men
to be monogamous".

A woman can never understand. Why would a man want to seek another woman
if he is "happily married"?

My male friends replied: "It is the testosterone" and "Men are highly
sexed".

These answers are not very enlightening, so I meditated on it and here's
what I think:

a) Men must be the centre of attention. Not long ago, I saw in the
newspapers a picture of a woman with her smiling husband at her side, her
newly-published cookbook in one hand. She said: "Show your husband your
love by giving him home-cooked food."

I asked my husband: "Do you want me to stay in the kitchen the whole day
preparing your food?" He shot back: "And smell of onion, garlic and fried
fish?"

A woman thinks that if her husband comes back from work and finds her
tired and sweaty, having prepared dinner, fed the children and tidied the
house, he will say: "Ah, my poor wife! She works so hard and is so
selfless, how I love her!"

More likely, he will think: "I work all day to bring home the bacon and
what do I get? A smelly and dishevelled wife who ignores me! She is only
interested in the kids and the house" - as if "the kids" and "the house"
are not his too!

When a woman grows up, she matures from a child needing attention into a
mother ready to suppress her own discomfort to attend to another. A man,
on the other hand, does not mature - he still needs as much attention, if
not more.

b) Men must be made to feel important. A woman sometimes does not
understand how egoistical a man can be.

A few years ago, my twin sister's sister-in-law and her husband came from
Taiwan to stay with my husband and I in Penang. As I drove them around,
the sister-in-law kept telling me to let her husband drive "because he is
very good with cars".

But, I thought to myself: I was doing fine, and I know my car and Penang's
streets better, right?

I realised too late - when he became curt to me and abrasive to the female
sale assistants - that he'd felt humiliated being driven around by a
woman. A man's ego is as fragile as porcelain.

While a woman looks upon her home as a place of stability and rootedness,
a man looks upon it as another arena where he can be important, the boss.
Thus, a man expects his wife to be submissive and "the wind beneath his
wings". It will not do if she overshadows him - he will become resentful
and need an outlet for his hurt ego.

c) Men cannot tell the difference between "love" and "sex". Once, a
60-something-year-old Englishman walked into my shop to buy Viagra. He
told me: "I come to South-east Asia every year to look for love because my
wife does not love me anymore. We have not had sex for a long time. She
has a prolapsed uterus and the doctor said she could just have a ring put
in to correct the situation, but she refuses to do anything about it!"

A prolapsed uterus is a condition in which the uterus sags into the
vagina. It is often due to a difficult childbirth or multiple childbirths.
But he looked so sorry for himself. My heart went out to his wife - she
had his love only as long as she could satisfy him sexually.

So, fathers and mothers, if you want your daughters to get married and
stay happily married, stop teaching them how to cook and sew - send them
instead to the geishas and the social escorts to learn how to please a
man.

d) Men want to feel that they are capable providers. A smiling and happy
wife assuages his ego, while a complaining wife hurts it. Thus, never
complain about anyone (especially his friends and mother) or anything to
him. And the surest way to drive him away is to start complaining about
him!

e) Men view their wives as trophies. A lot of women make the mistake of
thinking that since their role is to help their husbands shine, they can
be slothful about their own mental and physical development.

But to a man, a wife - like his cars, houses and titles - is a symbol of
his success and abilities. Thus, it will not do if a woman becomes less
desirable as she grows older, while her husband with his growing wealth
becomes more desirable.

We cannot depend on a man's conscience or reminders of what you have done
for him in the past to keep him faithful. A man, with both his ego and his
lust, cannot be expected to do the right thing.

It is left to the woman, as the stronger sex, to suppress her needs and
make the necessary sacrifices to keep her husband contented with her.

Had a good laugh over it....
hope you readers enjoy it too....

Slacking Sat...the usual bball game at ACS Barker road....
We won our last game of the season...a big margin win i must say...
but wasn't enough to override the second placing team to qualify for the final
Disappointed??? Yes, i am... But glad that i'm gonna get my whole saturday back...for other activites...with my loved ones...My family and Cynthia...

How fragile is a relationship??? Why do people stray??? For the thrill of it? Fun of it???
Or??? Is it so hard to be a one-woman/man guy or gal???
Or it's the just wired in the the nature of the human species that you must spread your seeds/ or find the most dormant male to mate with???
Just feel that life is getting so messed up these days....
Is it really that hard to remain faithful to one...just one???
Something to ponder.....